About

About me

I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California, and I work with individuals, couples, teens, and families. I’m Muslim, and I speak English and Arabic. Faith comes into our work only if you want it to.

Firas Bdaiwi, smiling, in a dark suit outdoors
Firas BdaiwiLMFT #160651 · California
  • Individual
  • Couples
  • Teens
  • Families
Firas Bdaiwi, LMFT, in a dark suit

A little about me


Long before I knew I wanted to become a therapist, I was the person people came to with their hurt. I loved being there for others. Even before I really understood what I was doing, I felt most comfortable holding people’s hearts.

Then I went through some big changes in my own life, and I needed someone to be there for me. Having therapy was an awakening. I felt what it was like to let someone in, to put some of the weight down, and to begin seeing a way forward.

Over time, becoming a therapist became a personal mission. It brought together my love for being there for people and my curiosity about the mind, the heart, and how we make sense of this world.

Growing up in between

I grew up in North America as an American Muslim. In many ways, that meant growing up in between. Between generations. Between the culture my family carried and the American culture I was finding my place in. Between holding on and fitting in.

That experience shapes how I listen. I understand that belonging can be complicated, and that sometimes the different parts of your life seem to ask you to be different people.

I want there to be room for all of you in our conversations. Your faith, your questions, your family, your frustrations. Even the things you’re still trying to understand yourself.

Why this work matters to me

I love helping people find room for their own healing and growth. There is something deeply meaningful to me about being trusted with someone’s struggles, big or small, and getting to understand the world through their eyes.

I see so much goodness and possibility in the people I work with. Sometimes it’s hard for them to see it themselves. Expectations, old hurts, difficult circumstances, or ways of getting through life can start getting in the way. I care about understanding what someone is carrying and helping them find more room to live, connect, and discover what feels meaningful to them.

Within that work, I have a particular passion for understanding the inner lives of men. As men, we carry so much, and often have few places where we feel comfortable being honest about it. I’m especially driven to help men make space for that honesty, work through what holds them back, and find a sense of purpose that feels like their own.

I’m equally passionate about creating space for couples to rediscover the warmth in their relationship, which can get buried under hurt, criticism, defensiveness, and shutting down. I want to help couples find room to be themselves while finding ways to reach each other.

From a young age, I saw how much hurt families could carry, and how that hurt could move between people who loved each other. Those experiences made me attentive to what happens beneath the surface and drew me toward working with couples. My clinical training and experience as a marriage and family therapist have helped me turn that care into practical ways of helping couples slow down, understand the patterns they get caught in, and find ways to reach each other again.

Mind, body, and soul

My studies in Islamic psychology at Cambridge Muslim College deepened something that matters a great deal to me: how we understand and care for the whole person.

I try to show up with my whole self, mind, body, and soul, to meet you as a whole person too. That means listening carefully, being present with what you’re feeling, and taking the time to understand what matters to you. Some things need space before they need an answer.

When you want faith to be part of that process, we can make room for it. There is space for the things that ground you, the questions you carry, and the parts of your spiritual life that may feel complicated.

A place to begin

I wish someone had encouraged me to seek help sooner. I didn’t know how much of a weight it could take off my shoulders, or how much of my life could open up once I let someone be there with me.

That’s part of why I do this work.

You might be feeling low, stuck, or tired of ending up in the same place. Maybe there’s just a sliver of you that wants something different, even if you have no idea what that looks like yet.

We can begin there. You don’t need to know exactly what to say. We can take the time to find the words together.

Outside the therapy room, I love being in nature. Give me the rain or the sunshine, I’m happy to be out in it. Soccer has always been a big passion of mine too. Hala Madrid!

When you’re ready, let’s talk.

Training & qualifications


  • Licensed Marriage and Family TherapistCalifornia, LMFT #160651
  • M.A. Clinical Psychology, MFT emphasisPepperdine University, 2022
  • Diploma in Islamic PsychologyCambridge Muslim College
  • Trained in the Shifaa MethodLevel 2
  • Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Level 3 TrainingThe Gottman Institute
  • English & ArabicArabic (conversational)

How I work

The ideas behind how I work, and the methods that go with each one.


Start with understanding

Before we change anything, we slow down and make sense of what’s going on and why.

  • Insight-oriented
  • Narrative
Practical tools between sessions

You’ll leave with something small to try during the week, so the work doesn’t stop when the session ends.

  • CBT
  • Motivational interviewing
The relationship is part of the work

A lot of what hurts happens between people, so we look at your relationships as well as what’s going on inside you.

  • Family systems
  • Gottman Method–informed couples work
Faith, when you want it

If you ask for it, we can draw on Islamic concepts such as fitrah, nafs, and qalb. A secular approach is always available.

  • Culturally responsive
  • Faith-integrated on request

What you can expect


Relationship first

Therapy works best when you feel safe enough to be honest, so that comes first.

You don’t have to translate

You don’t have to explain your faith, culture, or family from scratch. I’ll ask when I’m curious, and I won’t assume.

Faith as a resource

Bring as much or as little of your faith as you want, and change your mind anytime.

Insight that turns into action

Understanding yourself matters, and we’ll turn it into steps you can use in real life.

Your first session

It’s 50 minutes. We’ll go over confidentiality, talk about what brought you in, and agree on what you want to work on. You don’t need to prepare anything or have the right words.

Ready to talk?

Book a free 15-minute consult. We’ll see if I’m a good fit, with no pressure either way.